Wellesley College Still 'Constructing' 'New' Feminist Boy —and a 'New' Father Who Obeys Women Wellesley Has Enormous Power in Public Schools across the Country with 41 Researchers and Staffers Paid by Federal Tax Dollars Lawyers and Judges in Family Courts Are Greatly Influenced by Wellesley Heterophobia Grossly Evident

Instead of talking about domestic violence in an intelligent manner in its alumnae magazine, Wellesley had an emotional, photographic display of annonymous women as though it were a surreal exhibit from the Art Department.

By Atty. J. Edward Pawlick
July 2002

When Prof. Christina Hoff Sommers wrote her famous book, The War Against Boys, in 2000, she was focusing on the "Wellesley Centers for Women."

"Most parents have no idea what their children are facing in the public schools," said Prof. Sommers.

The extreme feminist tradition at Wellesley continued last month with the printing of an alumnae magazine which demonizes the fathers of all boys.

The feminists expressed concerns about "violence against women," but they were so childish that it was embarrassing. Their article would not get past the editor of most high school newspapers.

The college is signaling a new push to promote the concept in our family courts that "emotional abuse" is a form of "violence" - and thus the more "gentle," "giving" women should be in charge of our families.

This indicates why the fathers of Massachusetts are slamming into a stone wall when they seek justice in our courts. The many feminist judges and lawyers in the courts are getting their instructions from this powerful lobby.

The Wellesley alumnae magazine for Spring 2002 tells about an anonymous '78 graduate, who is still living in Massachusetts with her husband and four children. She was never physically attacked by her husband. But she says he was "a master of emotional and verbal abuse."

She was able to solve the problem. She obtained a restraining order against him in a Massachusetts court four years ago. "I had the power now," she says. She relishes that power and continues to use it. She relates that he "desperately wanted to return to his family" and even agreed to take medication in order to do so.

They are still together. Her story sounds like two people who could not agree on anything. She felt better after she got the "power."

"My husband no longer harried me over every purchase I made or told the kids that they could only come and go through one particular door in the house." That's the basis for the most important essay in this article about "violence against women" - this wife's desire to spend more of her husband's money at the shopping malls.

She says it was best for the children for them to stay together. But three of her four children now have anxiety disorders and are in therapy and some are medicated.

Her husband "still tries to control the family," but he understands that he is not really able to do so. If he goes too far, "I will overrule him if he becomes unreasonable. I am constantly vigilant, on the watch for abuse."

So, with the help of restraining orders and the Massachusetts courts, this woman now has the "power." She no longer takes antidepressants, but does remain on anti-anxiety medication.
Her lawyer is a Wellesley classmate who specializes in divorce law and her therapist is a woman who has worked for years with "abused women."

The measure of her success, she says, will be whether she succeeds in raising children who are "loving, confident and aware of abuse."

It's difficult to know if she really believes that seemingly ridiculous statement.

Six Essays Culminate 40 Years of Work

This story was one of six essays by alumnae. The essays are part of an article that was planned and written by experts, not beginners. It's said to be the culmination of a "combined 40 years" of work about "domestic violence" by two Ph.D., key members of the 28 researchers at the Wellesley Centers for Women. This study "has resulted in recommendations for policy" in schools, courts and elsewhere across the country, they say.

The obvious, overarching fault of the Wellesley "research" is that they really believe that all women are from Venus. They assume that everything a woman tells them is always true - even though these are statements of the "he said, she said" variety.

One does not need to be a trial lawyer to understand that no one ever tells everything about what happened. Every mother knows that. She constantly hears stories about who pushed first. "He started it!" "No, she did!"

The college apparently realizes that many of the women who suffer violence are not telling the truth because the college is constantly telling their people not to be "judgmental" against any woman they counsel.

Yet, at the same time they always assume that all women always tell the truth. The men were never contacted to hear their version of the events.

The writers even approve the statement that women as a group are "givers" who "bend so lovingly" to help others.

"This alumnae article was obviously prepared by women with an intense dislike of men," said one observer.

Featured on Front Cover

The magazine promises: "Six alumnae speak out about violence against women - how they have fought for safety, health, [sic] and normalcy."

For some reason, the feminists put a picture of a seductive woman on the cover even though she is not one of the six alumnae. This gave a lurid, yellow journalism look to this magazine from "one of America's finest colleges."

For the average alumna who just glances at the magazine and then turns to her class notes to read about her friends, there is nothing "wrong." She sees that her college is still fighting for the rights "of all women."

But for the rare alumna who bothers to read the six essays, it must be troubling. She will quickly see that this is just another insult to her intelligence.

It's one more battle in Wellesley's very successful war against boys, straight women and men. Although everyone agrees that the feminists are faltering in Massachusetts, they are still very powerful and resilient because of their enormous financial resources.

Whereas our society used to be concerned about violence against anyone, Wellesley is fixated only on women. Their egocentricity is self-evident.

Two of the six women who wrote essays about their experiences were victims of violence by strangers, which is deplored by everyone.

Jane '79 was raped, apparently in Boston, by a man who entered through her second-floor window.

Anne '94 was "attacked and sexually abused" during the Puerto Rican parade in Central Park in 2000. Apparently, she was not raped and was able to fight off the attackers. She was outraged by the disinterest of the police and was "transformed into a woman who felt compelled to do everything in her power to make sure that no other woman is ever stripped of her dignity in that way that I and nearly 60 other women were on that June day."

But it is the liberals from places like Wellesley who strenuously fight the police who are trying to make our cities safer for everyone by keeping violent people off the streets. This is particularly true in New York City where this spectacle took place. These liberals bitterly fought the enormous progress made by Mayor Guiliani which was acclaimed by all New York residents except for Hillary Clinton.

Carole '64 was never a victim of any sort. She's a politician who is attempting to bring socialism to Italy. As a member of the Italian Parliament and as a psychoanalyst, she helped to bring the first "shelters" for women to that country in 1996. She agrees that her effort is "explicitly feminist." She says, "Our intention was never simply to offer refuge to women in life-threatening situations; we also intended to work for change on a collective level."

She informs us that her experiences have been particularly gratifying. But her attempts to make a better world embrace only females. She puts it this way, "The [gratification] is seeing women of all ages - from mid-20s to late 70s - working together. I have watched the younger ones grow as they face difficult situations and the older ones change as the younger ones challenge us with their ideas."

The other three stories were about domestic violence. The first was a "classic" case (if true) by a member of the class of '93. She married while a senior and says she was first beaten six-months later. She now lives happily with her second husband and three daughters (one from her first marriage) in Los Angeles.

An '88er wrote from an island in Maine where she counsels women on a domestic violence hotline. She recounts the tale of a woman who called her at 3 a.m. because of her "raging husband." The Wellesley alum volunteers for the hotline because she went through a "hellish" divorce herself but is now happily remarried.

It is her job to listen "without judgment," she says. When translated, this means: She does not attempt to find the truth. The woman who is calling is always right. The man is always wrong.
She writes, "It is all too common for women to be givers to the bitter end. We bend so lovingly to others' will and demands. The common denominator of almost every hotline call is how willing these women are to give, often to the point of great risk to themselves and their children."

The other essay was by the anonymous '78er who obtained a restraining order against her husband.